The Jig Is Up, Child Savers: Molly McGrath Tierney Is on to You

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Molly McGrath Tierney is not some bomb-throwing outsider who wouldn’t say terrible things about the child welfare system if she understood what things were really like.

Molly McGrath Tierney is a bomb-throwing insider who knows exactly what things are really like. She knows all the excuses, she knows all the ways the system has tried and failed and, most important, she knows the psyches of the people who maintain and defend all that failure.

The jig is up, child savers. Molly McGrath Tierney is on to you. Two years ago, she told the world all about it. She did it in this 11-minute Tedx Talk in 2014. So I suggest that everybody stop reading this column, click on the video, and then we’ll come back and talk (there’s a comments section at the bottom of the page).

Impressive, isn’t it?

Not just her understanding of how harmful foster care is; when she says:

Kids that grow up in foster care: Overwhelmingly destined for the penitentiary, the morgue or the child welfare system when their own kids come into foster care.”

We all know that — everyone pays lip service to it.

And it’s not just her understanding of the perverse financial incentives, and the way the system becomes a “self-protecting ecosystem” that needs a steady supply of other people’s children to sustain itself. (And I thought I was the only one who used the term “foster care-industrial complex.”)

It’s not even how she sums it all up:

“The reason that child welfare isn’t working is because there are children in foster care. It’s not that the government is doing it badly, it’s that foster care is a bad idea.  The error is the intervention.”

No, what impressed me most was her understanding of the psyches of “child savers” – to use the term their 19th- century counterparts grandly gave themselves. Says Tierney:

“[I]t feels good to save kids. We get a great injection of adrenaline when we rush in and our brain responds to that stimuli just like we do anything else that feels good — we want more of it. And when we figure out how to keep returning to that good feeling, we start thinking that, in and of itself, is success. We start mistaking something that feels good to us for something that’s actually helping other people — ‘cause it feels so good, we must be doing the right thing.”

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It’s child saving as addiction — with righteous indignation as the “high.” And the system is putting its addiction ahead of the children.

This also explains why the “help” offered to families often is that which makes the helpers feel good, rather than what parents actually need. It explains why, instead of help with housing, or getting a better job, or child care, parents are so often sent on a forced march through “counseling” and “parent education.”

And it explains why the likely response to this video among child savers will be to attempt to co-opt it.

I can hear them now: “You don’t understand. We agree with Tierney. She says we need more prevention. We’re all for prevention. We love prevention!”

But child savers are not in favor of prevention — not really. Oh, they pay lip service to it — can you imagine anyone saying “If there’s one thing I hate, it’s prevention”? But ask them if they’re willing to actually change the way child welfare is funded by the federal government and they show their true colors: You’re welcome to add a little money for prevention here and there, they’ll say, but don’t you dare touch our open-ended entitlement to billions of dollars in foster care funds.

Tierney knows it. As she says on the video, even though the child savers actually mean well, there’s a word for what they do, and it isn’t “prevention.” Says Tierney:

“The socially supported, systematic mistreatment of a group. That has a technical term: oppression.

“Oppression is a word that’s usually reserved for use by good people to describe bad people doing bad things. Only it turns out — oppression is a tricky devil. It gets us good people unwittingly to pick up its weapons and to use them in the name of helping when we have the best of intentions in our hearts.

“[But] there is, I think, reason to hope. If we concede that soothing our egos isn’t the same as helping, and that commodifying people is never what we meant to do, and that listening to people who are struggling might have some value — then we can use this moment to move forward in a different way.”

Who wants to start?

Richard Wexler is executive director of the National Coalition for Child Protection Reform.

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  • jusbecuz

    I share this video everywhere and every time I see an news story that says foster care is “prevention”. I shared it with the LAX Blue Ribbon Commission, the new Oregon DHS Director Saiki. I don’t know what else I can do to get Molly’s common sense out there.

  • Zazu22

    I admire her for speaking up. I am not an expert on the statistics or numbers, but as a foster mother, I can honestly say that I have not had a child come into my care who didn’t have to be. In my state, they work EXCEPTIONALLY hard at ensuring parents keep their children and that if all else fails, that the child be placed with a biological relative. I have seen dozens of children who would more than likely have died had they been left in the care of their biological parents. She clearly says that some children do need to be removed. Where the issue lies is keeping children in care for years. Long term foster care is not the answer for ANY child. Early intervention with the family unit that offer support services is the best option. However, when that fails, it is insane that the system spends YEARS trying to reunify children. And when children die in the care of their biological families, everyone screams that the system failed to protect the child. And foster parents get very little respect or support, so finding good homes is always a major issue. It really is set up for those on the margins to take in children for a nominal fee that seems like real money to some. It’s really a no win situation. Maybe we need to go back to the pre-foster care world where children are left with parents no matter what and see how that works for a decade or so.
    I am also a college professor who works in an inner city, and I cannot count the number of students I have had who wished someone had intervened and taken them from their abusive/neglectful homes. Others who have gone through the system applaud the wonderful foster/adoptive parents who raised them. I see generation after generation living the same destructive lives they grew up in as you learn what you live and live what you learn. It is not all one thing, and there is no easy answer.

    • Joe Churchwell

      Which state?

    • kathleen clark

      I am also interested in what state you are in because its well known that theres not any state that is not receiving those uncapped title iv funds I find it hard for you to single out the parents when there are just as many foster parents guilty of the same if not far worse and heinous atrocities including far too many murders that children succumb to at the so called protection of this dangerous foster care system and that s exactly why maybe we should go back to the pre foster care world ….its well known that cps will cover as much as possible so as not to tarnish the name of this industry hidden under the premise of in the best interest of the child and when the vast majority of foster parents are there for that o soo minimalized every foster parent claims is not much of a stipend ….

  • Jane Addams

    It’d be interesting to know more about the child welfare system this woman claims to be so successful at running. What the writer – and as is typical – Mr. Wexler – forgets is that foster care saves lives. It’s lovely to believe that all we need to do is assist clients with housing and jobs and children will be safe. It’s far preferable to getting one’s brain around children starved nearly to death; repeated broken bones; seriously burned by being dipped into scalding water as a punishment by psychotic parent; living with mom – a hoarder – in a home with a deceased adult for weeks. Or a toddler dead b/c parents gave her only formula, with no iron. Oh these things don’t REALLY happen, do they?!!
    How lovely to live in Mr. Wexler’s world…where all parents need is a broom to clean their homes.

    • Joe Churchwell

      Unfortunately, children are removed from their homes unnessecarily many times and placed in abusive foster homes. Google Clarence Garretson Van Buren Arkansas amd get back to me.

    • kathleen clark

      What you are overlooking is the fact that 80 % of the children in foster care do not meet the criteria only 2 in 10 children are meeting the exigent circumstances The foster care industry is an uncapped industry and children are the commodity in this business. Do you not see the system is doing far more damage than good? Does it make you feel powerful or superior to blame the parent when the overzealous cps sw falsifies reports to remove children and place them in foster care overlooking reunification and any kinship placement because those bonus incentives and government kickbacks are far more important and immunity will protect the corrupt ones in this system but how will the child fare and what emotional scars and trauma will become in the long term affect we know the short term effects are treated with psychotropic pharmaceutical drugs and what will be the effect fo those is that not inhumane in the least with your sarcastic view…Did you not know or choose to overlook the fact that children are 70 times more likely to be abused physically sexually emotionally exploited missing or murdered in foster care and the forced adoptions that s a big bonus money maker now too Yet you want to see one side of the story This industry is a broken system that is dangerous and needs major reform if not shut down in its entirety I think Mr Wixlers world is far more accurate than your self righteous one wheres your broomstick?

      • Jane Addams

        I’m wondering if you could provide the source of your ‘data’? As a reminder, the child welfare caseworkers need to present facts to a judge, who makes the decision about whether the child enters or remains in care.

        As far as those bonuses and incentives go…these are ‘urban legend’ – caseworkers receive no such bonuses or any other sort of financial incentives. In fact the work is rather underpaid at best, although we ought to have the best trained and educated licensed social workers doing this work. Not only is it intellectually and emotionally challenging, the workforce needs to manage nay sayers like yourself who thrive on fake facts.

        • kathleen clark

          The layers are are conspirators in a racketeering and child trafficking scam inn the courts system across the USA There are dozens n dozens of groups with real attorneys that are protesting as child advocates for rapid reform n the defunding of title iv funds which are the driving force to seizing children with No oversight Senator Nancy Schaefer of Georgia was murdered after exposing her 4 year study n made a documentary on The Corrupt Business of CPS,,,,,,,all of your layers are the receivers of the funding kinda stupid they would be considered as oversight ,,,,The Facts as you would want to believe are often fabricated reports false reports in closed courts no due process no evidence no cameras in court or on cps no jury trial ,,,,all based on a preponderance of,,,,as Clintons asfa act calls for which is Unconstitutional and should be abolished in the usa ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,and that is what millions of parents and advocates are trying to do ,,,,,,,,,,This is an enormous cess pool off the swamp that needs to be drained immediately the statistics don’t lie ….

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  • Siobhan Justin

    What is Molly McGrath doing now? The last that I have heard, she resigned her position with Baltimore DCF in August, 2017.